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This Is How We Go Through It
A blog about life, loss and everything in-between
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nikkilajoie
Jan 87 min read
Take the Damn Wheel
No matter how many wrong turns we take or how many pot holes we slam our tires into- is the only way to get to our own personal truth
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nikkilajoie
Nov 8, 20231 min read
Understanding a World Where *Poof, You’re Just Gone
How am I supposed to invest in a world,
where, *poof, you’re just gone.
One day in front of my eyes. Flesh and bone.
The next minute, you
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nikkilajoie
Sep 4, 202313 min read
The Lies We Tell Ourselves
We all tell lies. But what happens when we start getting real?
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nikkilajoie
May 17, 20236 min read
The Porch Chair
The Porch Chair In my family, as cliché, as it may seem, growing up- the porch was a place where we often convened to sit and chat about...
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nikkilajoie
Apr 21, 20233 min read
The Missing You
The missing you, that’s been the hardest part. It’s the part after the shock ad trauma of the loss of you.
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nikkilajoie
Mar 25, 20235 min read
My Purple Jelly Shoes
When I was about 7 or 8 years old, I begged my mom for jelly shoes. She would humor my request by asking what I loved so much about a...
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nikkilajoie
Mar 15, 20237 min read
A Few Things I Wish Men Knew
Hi. I’m a woman, and I love being a woman. (Most of the time….) As a woman in today’s world, I think I speak for many of us when I...
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nikkilajoie
Mar 7, 20232 min read
Every Time I Go To Call You
I got some good news today I felt this rush of happiness and I went to grab my phone to call you and tell you- my first thought, my...
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nikkilajoie
Mar 2, 20237 min read
Once Upon a Time, I Got Really Lost
Once upon a time I got really lost. Like, what am I doing with my life, I’m an imposter, I don’t belong here, lost. Like- what the hell...
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nikkilajoie
Feb 26, 20237 min read
Loss and The Lessons We Never Wanted
Loss doesn’t have to mean death…. and oftentimes, it doesn’t. When we hear of loss, the first thing that usually pops into people's minds...
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nikkilajoie
Feb 23, 20235 min read
Forest Bathing
Let me start by saying that I never liked hiking. My husband is a hiker… I never was. I used to joke that “all you do is huff it up the...
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nikkilajoie
Feb 14, 20233 min read
My First Valentines Without My Mama
My first valentines without my mama... 10/10 do NOT recommend. So, I know what your thinking. “Why would Valentine’s Day make you miss...
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nikkilajoie
Feb 13, 20237 min read
The Way We Grieve
The Way We Grieve is complicated. It's hard to know how loss will hit you, how it will affect every single day of your life until you...
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Hello
My name is Nikki Lajoie
I am just a gal trying to figure it out. Maybe you're like me, and you're trying to figure it out too. No one has all the answers but through community and shared experience we can find the connections that make this life a beautiful thing. This is how we go through it. I hope you come along with me.
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